Let’s talk on how to handle mean girls at work and be more resilient
Despite being in my early 40s, there are times when I feel like I’m still in high school. This is a result of how certain women have treated me in both my personal and professional life. Many of us find ourselves in situations that are regrettably similar to our dark adolescent years since bullies from junior high and high school sometimes grow up to become bullies in the job (as well as outside of work). The saddest aspect is how much stronger and vengeful these cruel girls are.
Every single one of us occasionally exhibits mean girl traits.
Peer pressure plays a role occasionally. Sometimes it’s because they make us feel inferior to ourselves in some way. I can own up to it, even though I’m not particularly proud of it. Why are we so rude to other women when we need to be standing by one another and supporting one another?
When a woman feels threatened, insecure, or simply doesn’t like another woman, she may act in hurtful ways like backstabbing, gossiping, purposefully excluding them from gatherings or social events, sabotaging, taking credit for their work, or assisting in their expulsion from a position or social group. Perhaps a lady at work or perhaps in your personal life has engaged in some of these practices. You should be aware that you are not alone.
The dark side of female relationships, as I like to call it.
In this post, I’ll discuss how to spot a mean female and how to come up with management techniques that will help you get the job done despite her destructive conduct.
Never Attack Back or Engage in Combat
As has already been mentioned, bullying tends to stop when you don’t respond to them. They frequently try to harm you. Counterattacking is a complete waste of time and effort. You’d be far better off improving yourself by doing something worthwhile.
Backstabbing or Gossip
When the nasty girl is by herself, approach her. Tell her you don’t like the way she’s acting. Be clear, firm, and courteous. To prevent inciting hostility from your coworker, use “I” remarks rather than “You” statements. To prevent inciting hostility from your coworker, use “I” remarks rather than “You” statements. Say, for instance “I’m aware that my manager believes I don’t contribute during team meetings. We both know that many of the ideas we employ come from me, but I never get credit for them. I’ll file a legal complaint if you don’t stop claiming credit for my concepts.” Once you’ve finished speaking, leave. No matter what she says, avoid interacting with her in any way.
Put an End to Your Doubters
As we’ve discussed, jealousy and insecurity are the root causes of mean girl behavior, so you can try to diffuse it by publicly praising the bad girl and letting her know you think she’s a pioneer in her profession. This can be done in a number of ways. Share her material on social media and include her in the postings if she is a published author. If you’re planning an event, ask her to speak on a panel. Giving her a chance to succeed might make her quit acting out. However, be real and avoid going overboard when attempting to win her over because this can come across as being insincere.
Avoid Getting Caught In the Mean Girl Trap
We are all capable of slandering someone and acting rudely to them. I occasionally engage in it, especially with regard to women who have been unkind to me in the past. Since almost all of us have experienced mean girl behavior firsthand and are therefore aware of how terrible it feels when it occurs to us, why do we go out of our way to make others feel that way as well? We don’t need to be petty, cruel, or gossipy because we are better than that. Let’s promise to stop criticizing one another and start encouraging one another. Of course, we don’t have to get along with everyone we work with or the female members of our professional groups, but we also don’t have to spread rumors about them. Whether we want to be kind or not is a decision each of us can make. Start now by making the proper decision.
Encourage and Uphold Others
Helping the upcoming generation of experts in my industry in whatever capacity they require me to be is one of the most essential jobs I have at this time in my career. I always attempt to help my classmates as well as aspiring leaders. I also believe that by spending time with younger, up-and-coming professionals and industry peers, folks like me may prevent mean female behavior in the future by forging deeper bonds within our community.
Keep Track Of Your Conversations
Everyday Health advises developing the practice of keeping a journal of your interactions with unkind coworkers. Keep a record of the date, time, place, and a brief description of what happened. If there are any witnesses, note their names and ask them in confidence if they would be willing to testify on your side. Keep any emails or notes you get from the person. If you choose to bring your case to your manager or the human resources division, having proof of mean girl conduct at work, even minor slights, will help.
Kill Them With Compassion.
Simply being kind to everyone is what I mean by this. Be kind to mean girls as well, but not too kind or phony. The reason for this is that if you treat them well and don’t give them any reasons to pick on you, they won’t. Additionally, keep in mind that someone’s rude behavior might not even be related to you because you never know what they are going through outside of the office.
Choose the Noble Path
Refrain from responding to the negative things that people say about you. (Note: Do not let the person’s maliciousness taint the message if there is even the slightest chance that what they are saying about you is true. Instead, accept constructive criticism.) It typically dies down and disappears if you ignore the remarks and the offender. It won’t help to defend oneself or try hard to win over the mean girls. Nothing you say or do will change the fact that someone dislikes you and is envious of you. Just disregard the gloom, because
How to Build Resilience at Your WorkPlace
Being authentic is staying true to the ideals and principles we really value. These qualities could include ones like loyalty, honesty, and integrity. Finding consistency between these values, beliefs, and actions can boost emotional intelligence, according to an interesting study. In other words, you’re more likely to be able to handle emotionally challenging events when they arise.
Identify Your Calls
Work that matters increases intrinsic drive and job satisfaction. This is demonstrated by recent research from the Harvard Business School, which shows that employees who feel they have a direct impact on the performance results of the company report higher levels of competency and self-determination in their work.
Maintaining an active lifestyle and eating a healthy diet are crucial for giving you the mental clarity you need to overcome impending obstacles at work. Exercise is a terrific method to relieve stress and clear your head while also producing serotonin and endorphins that are essential for boosting confidence and a sense of worth.
You must take full advantage of the team you have assembled around you. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with, according to an old proverb. You may create a network of people who are pushing you in the direction you want to go by surrounding yourself with those who inspire, challenge, and drive you.
Employees may be inspected at this time. Therefore, it is important for employees to demonstrate that they “earn their keep” and are a significant asset to the company. Making effort and commitment to performance their top priorities will actually aid in lowering workplace stress.
Keep Your Workplace Relationships Positive
Employees should avoid harmful workplace conversations and gossip, even if they are under a lot of pressure at work. Even when under pressure, it is probably best to keep any discussion about layoffs with your superiors to a minimum.